Khud Ko Priority Dena Galat Kyun Nahi Hota – Ek Sach Jo Har Koi Nahi Samajhta

Khud ko priority dena Selfish nhi, balki khud ki dekhbaal hai . Kabhi aapko aisa laga jab aap apne liye "No" bolte hain, to log aapko selfish bol dete hai.

Jab tak hum khud ko priority nhi dete dusro ki dekhbaal bhi nhi kar sakte, chaahe woh aapki family ho ya aapka pyar.

Sabse pahle hume khud se pyar hona chahiye tabhi dusro se bhi kar sakte hai.

Self love is very important for every one .

Log Khud Ko Priority Banana Selfish Kyun Samajhte Hain?

• Society Ki Condition- Hume bachpan se yahi sikhya jata hai ki ache log khud ke baare mein nhi sochte, pehle family phir hum , pehle dusro ka khyaal rakho.

• "Achha insaan "banne ka pressure- Aksar logo ke upar acha insaan banne ka pressure dala jata hai. Tum jab aache kahe jaoge tab tum khud se pehle dusro ki soch rakho.

• Dusro ko khush rakhe ki aadat- Dusro ko khush rakhne ki aadat ka matlab hai, apni khushi ,feeling, emotion, sapno ko side mein rakh kar haan bol dena.

💔Khud Ko Ignore Karne Ke Nuksaan

Khud ko ignore karna sacrifice lagta hai, lekin ye dheere- dheere apki aadat ban jaata hai jo aapko andar se tod deti hai.

1. Emotional Thakaan

   jab hum dosro ki haa mein haa milate hai to hamare emotion ko kabhi aaram nhi milta , kyuki hamare emotion ke baare mein koi nhi sochta .

2. Self worth kam ho jaana

   Baar -baar apne emotion ko maar kar hume ye feel hota hai ki , hamari koi value hi nhi hai , hume koi nhi samjhta .

3. Gussa or frustration hona

   jab hamare mann ki nhi hoti to gussa hamare andar jama ho jata hai , jissey hum chhoti chhoti baato par bhadak jaate hai.

4. Logo ko aadat ho jaati hai aapko ignore karne ki.

   Jab aap logo ki haa mein haa milte ho to unko aadat ho jaati hai , jissey woh aapko ignore karne lagte hai.

5. Aap apni pehchaan kho dete hai

   Kabhi -kabhi aap khud se poochte hain:

   "main kaun hoon ? Mujhse kya pasand hai ?"

   yeh question is baat ka signal hai ki aap khud ko bahut peeche chhod gaye.

💖Khud Ko Chunna Selfish Kyu Nahi Hai?

khud ko chunne ka matlab yeh nhi aap dusro ko ignore kar rahe ho, balki yeh hai aap apni value ko bhi samjh rahe ho.

1.Khud Ko Chunna = Self Respect

Jab aap khud ko chunte ho to aap emotion ,needs,limits ko respect dete ho.

2.Self - Love or Selfishness Mein Farq

self- Love- jaha hum khud ke liye kade hue bina kisi or ko nuksaan kare.

selfishness-Jaha hum dusro ko nuksaan de kar apna fayada dekhte hai.

3.Khud Ko Chunna Dusro Ko Chhodna Nhi Hai

Khud ko chunna ka matlb khud ka khayal rakhna

• Har kisi ko plz na karna

• khud ko priority dena

• apni energy sahi jagah lagana ,

"khud ko chunna selfishness nhi , balki wafadar hota hai."

Kaise Shuru Kare Khud Ko priority Dena ?

Khud ko priority dena ek din ka kaam nhi hai ,balki har roj chhote- chhote decision lena se shuru hota hai.

1,Apni feeling ko igonore karna band kare

Dusro ke liye apni feeling ko ignore na kare or kabhi bhi kisi or ke liye yeh mat kaho ki hum adjust kar lenge .

Sabse pehle aapko apni feeling ka dhyan rakhna hai.

2.Har Baat par "yes" bolna jaruri nhi hai

Baat - Baat par "yes" bolna jaruri nhi hota agar aap kisi baat ke liye "NO" bhi bolte ho to iska ye matlab nhi ki badtmeez ho . Agar aap thak chuke hain, to mana karna thik hai.

3.Roz Thoda Time Apne Liye Rakhein

Din ke chaahe 15 minutes apne liye nikale jisme aap :

• Music sun sakti hai

• Likh sakti ho

• shaant baith sakti hain

• bina guilt ke rest lena

Ye time aapke liye zaroori hota hai

4. Guilt Se Bahar Niklein

Agar aap khud ke liye kuch karte ho to guilt feel hota hai, kyuki hume shuru se sikhaya jaata hai ki pehel hume dusro ke baare mein sochna chahiye, achhe log apne baare mein nhi sochte.

5.Apni limits clear rakhe (Boundaries)

Agar aapni koi baar -baar energy le raha ho to usko nhi bolna seekho har kaam ke liye Haa mat bolo

"Mein is time ye nhi kar sakta."

6. Khud Se Positive Baat Karna Sikhe

Jo baat hum apne best friend se kah sakte hai ,wahi baat khud se kahe .

self- talk aapki self- worth ko increase karta hai.

7.Perfect Nhi Honest Bane

Apko sabse saath honest nhi banana bas khud ke liye perfect bane .

Real Life Example :

Rina ek ghar sambhalne wali aurat hai.

Subah se raat tak bachche, ghar aur sabki zaruratein — sab uski zimmedari hain.

Agar woh thak jaaye, to bhi kehti hai, “Baad me aaram kar lungi.”

Ek din doctor ne kaha ki use rest ki zarurat hai.

Pehli baar Rina ne khud ko chuna —

usne kuch kaam mana kiye, thoda time apne liye nikala.

Shuru me logon ko bura laga,

kuch ne use selfish bhi kaha.

Lekin dheere-dheere Rina zyada shaant, healthy aur khush rehne lagi.

Usne samjha —

jab woh khud theek rahi, tabhi ghar bhi theek raha.

✨ Final Thought

Khud ko priority dena duniya se muh modna nahi hota,

yeh apni zindagi ko sambhalna hota hai.

Aap dusron ke liye tabhi khade reh paayenge,

jab aap khud andar se majboot honge.

Yaad rakhiye —

khud ko chunna selfish nahi, zaroori hai. 🌱

❓ FAQs – Khud Ko Priority Dena

Q1. Kya khud ko priority dena selfish hota hai?

Nahi. Khud ko priority dena selfish nahi hota, balki self-respect aur mental health ke liye zaroori hota hai. Isse aap emotionally strong bante hain.

Q2. Jab hum “NO” bolte hain to log selfish kyun kehte hain?

Kyuki log aapke har baar haan bolne ke aadat me hote hain. Jab aap boundary banate hain, unki expectations toot jaati hain, isliye woh selfish keh dete hain.

Q3. Khud ko priority dene se rishte kharab ho jaate hain kya?

Nahi. Healthy boundaries rishte kharab nahi karti, balki unhe clear aur balanced banati hain.

Q4. Kya ghar aur family ke saath rehkar khud ko priority de sakte hain?

Bilkul. Khud ko priority dena ka matlab family ko ignore karna nahi, balki apni energy aur time ko sahi tarike se manage karna hota hai.

Q5. Khud ko priority dena kaise shuru karein?

Chhote steps se shuru karein — apni feelings ko sunna, guilt kam karna, aur har baat par haan bolna band karo.